Dear Jamie is a regular series where our readers seek advice from Jamie, a Guangdong-based life coach.
Dear Jamie,
I did something bad. After a night of heavy drinking, I came back to the apartment I share with my girlfriend and jumped headfirst onto the bed. Fortunately, my girlfriend was in the other room. Unfortunately, her pet ferret was on the bed. At first I thought he was sleeping, and then I realized I had crushed him to death.
I didn’t know what to do so I brought the ferret out to the balcony and threw it off. Then I realized my neighbor was on his balcony smoking a cigarette and may have seen everything.
My girlfriend is preparing to put up posters offering a reward and I’m afraid our neighbor will tell her. If I tell her what I did, it could be the end of our relationship. If I don’t tell her, the neighbor might rat on me. Or it could all just blow over if I don’t say anything. I feel guilty and I truly love my girlfriend, but I think staying silent could be the lesser of two evils. What should I do?
-Confused in Shenzhen
Dear Confused,
Tell her. Every day of silence will only make it worse. It could mean the end of your relationship, but if she can’t accept you made a mistake, the relationship wasn’t going to last. Let her know before she ferrets out the truth for herself!
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