Dear Jamie is a regular series where our readers seek advice from Jamie, a Guangdong-based life coach.
I have an ayi who has come to clean weekly for about a year. Recently, something perturbing has been happening. She cleans while we are away and each time I come home the shower is wet, and it contains long, black hairs and the shampoo bottles are noticeably lighter. It is obvious she is taking advantage of our home amenities.
That being said, she is an excellent housekeeper. She is also cheap and reliable. I have no idea how to approach the situation without making our dear ayi lose face.
Help us Jamie-wan-Kenobi, you are our only hope.
-Pilfered in Guangzhou
Your problem has a brand-name solution: Nair.
The favored hair remover of ornery teenagers, plop a bottle of Nair down in the shower and wait for the wayward housekeeper to do the deed herself – though you’ll still end up with black hair in your drain.
After this balding episode, she might stop showering entirely!
Don’t feel like possible jail time? Then fire her.
Honestly, her face level is the least of your concerns. You’re paying her to clean and she is singing rub-a-dub from the laowai’s tub.
That’s not only disrespectful, it’s borderline theft.
Got a problem? Just, sort of, ball it up, into a tight black thing and bury it deep, deep inside where it festers unacknowledged until you explode in a blaze of rage and regret. Or ask Jamie at firstname.lastname@example.org!
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