Dear Jamie: My Party-Loving Girlfriend Keeps Vanishing

By That's PRD, September 30, 2017

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Dear Jamie is a regular series where our readers seek advice from Jamie, a Guangdong-based life coach.

Dear Jamie,

I’m seeing a woman and things are great. I love her personality and the way she knows how to party. The problem is, we’ve been dating for about a month and she’ll often just go out of contact for several hours or even days at a time. 

I want to ask her exactly what is going on, but her English isn’t that good and my Chinese is terrible. 

Do I have reason to worry?

-Distressed in Shanghai

Dear Distressed,

Yes. A partier with a winning personality who goes missing for days? After a month, surely you’ve asked what’s going on, right?

Oh, wait. You two can’t speak to each other!

Look, communication is important. You need to be able to communicate things like ‘I enjoy long walks,’ or ‘it was only one time, I don’t love him’ or even ‘I have a job and family, get off my case, laowai.’

You get the point. You’ve been together a short time and she seems to have other things going on, so figure out a way to tell her your concerns and be ready to let the ship sail.

And for future’s sake, brush up on your Chinese. I can recommend a great tutor – nice woman, English is a bit rusty, but she knows how to make class fun. 


You can run your mouth on Facebook, or you can message me directly.

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