Dear Jamie is a regular series where our readers seek advice from Jamie, a Guangdong-based life coach.
Dear Jamie,
I met a really cool girl on Tinder a few weeks ago and we ended up spending a night together. I asked to meet up again but she blocked me.
Just today, I met my friend’s girlfriend and it was the same girl I met on Tinder.
Do I tell him? I’m worried that it will both ruin his relationship with his girlfriend and kill our friendship.
What’s the best way to handle this? Is mum the word?
-Confused in Shenzhen
Dear Confused,
Cue the dramatic organs, because we have a good ol’ fashioned Tinder plot twist – similar to a Planet of the Apes plot twist in that it results in loss of faith in humanity.
First: get your dates straight. How long has your friend and his new lass been exclusive – does your belly bumping fall outside their timeline?
If, on the other hand, you learn she betrayed your friend and you were a tool of the trade – well, you owe your friend the truth.
You see, relationships are fickle things: blooming, burning out, fading like embers in the wind… what I’m trying to say is: the end is nigh.
Sit down with your buddy and explain what happened. How he reacts is up to him, but don’t be surprised if he leaves the conversation shy a girlfriend and you on shaky ground for a while.
Look at the bright side, the ‘really cool’ girl might unblock you now.
-Jamie
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